How To Get the Guy Podcast

Have you ever looked back at the people you've dated and realized you keep falling for the same type of person, even when those relationships never seem to work out? Maybe you're always drawn to someone who's emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or exciting in ways that ultimately leave you feeling insecure. Or perhaps you've met someone who treats you well, makes you feel comfortable, and genuinely interests you, but you dismiss them because they're just not your usual type. So how much of what we call our "type" is genuine attraction, and how much is simply what we've become used to?

Have you ever wondered why, after everything you’ve achieved and experienced in life, you still don’t feel as confident as you thought you would by now? Maybe you’ve spent years working on yourself, building a career, or achieving things you thought would finally make you feel good enough. And yet, one rejection or setback can still leave you questioning your worth. Why is confidence so easy to lose, even when we’ve worked so hard to build it? In this week’s episode, I share my 3 Layers of Confidence model and explain why so much of the confidence advice we hear

What if you never find the love you've always wanted? It's a fear many people carry, especially when they've spent years dating, watching other people find relationships, and wondering when it will finally be their turn. But how do you make peace with the possibility that something you want so deeply might never happen, without giving up hope of finding it? In this episode, we respond to a listener who, at 51, is confronting that very question. We talk about the danger of measuring your life against someone else's, how focusing on the worst-case scenario can rob you of the

Have you ever had something happen in your love life that affected you far more than you thought it should? Maybe someone pulled away. You got rejected. Or a relationship ended. And instead of simply feeling disappointed or hurt, you couldn’t stop thinking about it. You replayed what happened, obsessed over what you could have done differently, and felt desperate to get back the person or connection you lost. At what point does normal disappointment become something deeper? In this episode, I sit down with Gabby Bernstein to talk about what’s really happening when someone pulling away, rejecting us, or

You’ve been ghosted. They’re gone. But somehow, the conversation with them is still happening in your head. You reread the messages. You wonder what you did wrong. You search for the clue that will finally explain why they disappeared. The problem is, our need for closure can become a desperate attempt to regain control in a situation where we have none. And every time we go looking for an answer, we risk reopening the wound. In this episode, I’ll show you how to stop that cycle and create the closure you didn’t get from them, including a specific text you

What do people who are naturally good at flirting do differently? It’s easy to assume they’re more confident, more attractive, or simply better at knowing what to say. But after nearly 20 years of studying attraction and watching hundreds of first dates, I’ve noticed something else going on. In this week’s episode, I break down three great flirting scenes from movies that look completely different on the surface but all have one surprising thing in common. And it’s something most flirting advice completely misses. --- ►► Want to Feel More in Control of How You Respond to Difficult Emotions? Join