How To Get the Guy Podcast

Some people stay with us long after they're gone. Not because they were the right person, but because we remember how they made us feel. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who can't seem to let go of someone she met two years ago. Their chemistry felt effortless. Their connection felt rare. Yet the relationship never became what she hoped it would. Together, they explore why certain people become impossible to forget, how nostalgia can distort the story we tell ourselves, and why chemistry alone is never enough to build a great relationship. If you've ever

I still remember the worst heartbreak of my life. I remember thinking I'd never feel okay again. I remember searching for answers. And I remember realizing that knowing what to do isn't the same as actually living through it. Over time, I discovered a handful of things that genuinely changed the way I healed. Not because they made the pain disappear overnight, but because they helped me stop making an already painful experience even harder. In this week's episode, I share the five things that got me through one of the hardest periods of my life, and the lessons I

There's a particular kind of heartbreak that comes from seeing your ex move on before you have. It can leave you wondering what they saw in someone else that they didn't see in you, or whether they were always meant to end up with someone else in the first place. In this episode, Matthew answers a question from a live audience member who is trying to let go after the end of a five-year relationship. They talk about why it's so hard to move on when someone else seems to have done it so quickly, the role our ego plays

Heartbreak has a way of changing everything. It can make the world feel unfamiliar, leave you questioning yourself, and convince you that no one could possibly understand the weight you're carrying. In this special episode, I wanted to do something different. I'm reading an essay I wrote over the last ten days about heartbreak, what it really feels like, why it can be one of the most devastating experiences of our lives, and the hope that still exists even when you can't see it. If you're in the middle of heartbreak right now, I hope this feels like someone sitting

Heartbreak has a way of convincing us that what we're feeling is unlike anything anyone else has ever experienced. But not all heartbreak is the same. The pain of losing someone you never really got to have isn't the same as the pain of losing a long-term relationship. And neither of those feels like the heartbreak of someone walking away without warning. The truth is, different kinds of heartbreak keep us stuck for different reasons. That's why, in this week's episode, I talk about the four kinds of heartbreak I see most often, why each one is so uniquely painful,

Worried that sleeping with someone will change the way they feel about you? In this episode, I tackle one of the biggest sources of anxiety in dating: when to have sex, how to bring up the conversation beforehand, and what to do if you're afraid of being rejected or ghosted afterward. I also share a simple script you can adapt to make that conversation feel more natural, along with the mindset that will help you stop feeling like your happiness depends on someone else's response. My hope is that, by the end of this episode, you'll feel more confident making